Monday, September 8, 2014

I Am Flawed...Who Isn't?

Going back through my blogs, I realized a funny thing about myself; I'm a flawed human being.

While I am certain parenthood over the last few years has proven that I am far from perfect and has humbled me beyond my wildest imagination, I have come to terms that I am a flawed human being and that is perfectly acceptable. We work so hard to have nice things, nice homes, the nicest car, and the trendiest clothes. Why? What do we have to prove? And most importantly; to whom do we have to prove it?

I used to think I had to have a nice car and house to prove I was successful. A big diamond engagement ring and successful career. Funny...I was unhappy. Those of you who really know me, know I am divorced and remarried. It makes me cringe to see people (self-important people) post their holier-than-thou, "Marriage is Forever" memes and preach their perfect anti-divorce spew all over social media. I get it, already. But my convictions are just that. MINE! Who are any of us to judge another person's life or decisions. I am far from proud of several choices I have made in my life, but am pretty happy with the last few years. I married a man who believes in God. I married a man who wanted children. I married a man who makes my family feel welcome and would never hesitate to help any of them if they needed it. These were 3 things that, despite my best efforts, I couldn't make happen in the first marriage. Deal breakers.

It's easy to judge on high and from afar...but, why? Why would we? Do we get a sense of satisfaction or accomplishment to always be "right"? My divorce and remarriage doesn't define me. I wouldn't wish it upon anyone! I would hope there was a way for married couples to work to stay together before they called it quits. There are plenty of places to go for help. But, if you should end up in a deal-breaking relationship, there are groups to help you get through that, too! Don't let the "we are better than you" couples drag you down. There's no such thing.